Safety is often framed as absence.
Absence of risk.
Absence of exposure.
Absence of responsibility if something goes wrong.
We are taught, early and repeatedly, that careful decisions protect us not only from harm but from blame. If we follow the guidance, respect the process, and avoid escalation, we have done what was asked of us. Whatever follows must belong to someone else.
This framing is comforting.
It is also inaccurate.
Every choice—especially the ones labelled safe—exerts pressure on the...